"Be patient in afflictions, for thou shalt have many" (D&C 24:8)

I have several plants that I water and neglect, uh, I mean nourish on a regular basis. I sometimes look at them as if they were a pain, more than a pleasure because I so often forget to water them. One plant in particular though, has really grown over the past several months due to the addition of fertilizer that I have added to its regular watering. As I have added the fertilizer and watered it, it has grown so tall that it really needs a new pot. It is now strong and healthy and it gets blooms on a regular basis. It is beautiful...as long as I remember to water and nourish it. The Lord taught similar principles in the allegory of the olive tree. (It can be read here). The "master of the vineyard" cared for his vineyard by nourishing, digging, pruning, and dunging the trees. Sometimes we all need a little "dung", "nourishing", "digging", and "pruning". I liken these necessary  items to trials, burdens, suffering, and afflictions, which sometimes are heavy, stink, or hurt, but they are for our good and benefit, even though we can't see the benefits immediately. I put fertilizer on my plant and it grew and got blooms. It grew stronger and much bigger than I imagined it would. We suffer, are cut down by trials or pain, digging deep within to find solace and peace as we are "refined...in the furnace of affliction" (Isaiah 48:10).

My plant that I have added fertilizer-
note the bloom and size of the pot. 

The Lord has counselled us: "Be patient in afflictions, for thou shalt have many; but endure them, for, lo, I am with thee, even unto the end of thy days" (D&C 24:8; see also D&C 66:9; Alma 17:11). As I have endured and suffered I have wondered what is the purpose of this...why? Some days it is so difficult; and then it hit me. I was growing, and I just couldn't see it. It was like trying to watch a plant grow. The plant is growing, and if I sit and watch it, it is a terribly slow and painful process to observe. But if I water it, dung it, and let the sunlight, nutrients and plant do their individual assignments together...growth happens.

This is the same in our own lives. If we expect to see growth in a day with few struggles or challenges and no discipline, yet hope we are becoming something more or stronger than we were, then we are only exercising impatience and will experience no growth. What the Lord wants for us is more; He wants for us to grow to our full potential. In essence He is saying: "What manner of men [and women] ought ye to be? Verily I say unto you, even as I am" (3 Nephi 27:27). This is His call to us to keep trying, to keep enduring in those most challenging and difficult times when it seems like there is little or no growth, but just fertilizer, mud, and painful cutting. When in reality, He is nourishing us, and shaping us because "now are we the sons [and daughters] of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that when He shall appear, we shall be like Him; for we shall see Him as He is" (1 John 3:2 italics mine).

When we remember that the Lord "searcheth all hearts, and understandeth all the imaginations of the thoughts" and if we "seek Him" (1 Chronicles 28:9) then we have eyes to "see afar off" (2 Peter 1:9) because we know His vision is greater than ours and so is His timetable (D&C 64:32). It is when we keep pulling up the roots to see how our plants are growing that we begin to lose hope, for there is no growth to be made without water, nourishing, dunging, digging, and pruning. As Elder Neal A. Maxwell said: "Patience stoutly resists pulling up the daisies to see how the roots are doing" (Patience). Therefore, we can't just sit there and wait for our plants to grow, we must keep "pressing forward" that we may partake of the fruit that is most assuredly there waiting for us (1 Nephi 8:21,24,30) and is "most sweet, above all that [we] ever before tasted" (1 Nephi 8:11).

I will be honest, I wish I could be done with some of my trials and afflictions, they aren't what I really enjoy- they are difficult and challenging (I guess that's why they are called challenges). But, through them, I do, we do, become something more: more holy, more grateful, more strengthened "to o'ercome", more filled with faith, "more Savior like Thee" (see More Holiness Give Me). When we are "patient in afflictions" we can choose to become more... more Christlike. What a blessing to be "patient in afflictions, for [we shall] have many" (D&C 24:8)  as we are digged, pruned, nourished and fertilized by One who truly loves us and knows our potential growth, "that when He shall appear we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is; that we may have this hope; that we may be purified even as He is pure" (Moroni 7:48).

This is a group of plants that I have neglected to water.  It looks so sad and droopy...I just forget to water these poor things. 

This is after it has been watered. Truly there is power and strength in water...imagine the growth if I added a little fertilizer!

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"...The tender mercies of the Lord are over all those whom He hath chosen, because of their faith..." ( 1 Nephi 1:20)

Sometimes as a parent, or even as a human being, I feel like I am walking around in the wilderness. I know I am suppose to be a parent to the children I have, but there are times that it is so challenging and so frustrating and I really feel I have no idea what I am doing. There are also times when all I seem to do is murmur, murmur, murmur, or maybe I am just hitting my head against a brick wall, so to speak. That's not so good. So how can I handle it better? Don't know if I really handle it better, but at least I can feel like I am not wandering. Here are my thoughts.

Nephi talks about being in the wilderness (see 1 Nephi 17:1-2). Laman and Lemuel also talk about being in the wilderness (1 Nephi 17:20) and boy are their attitudes extremely different about the exact same experiences. I know that sometimes I murmur as I feel like I have "wandered in the wilderness these many years" (1 Nephi 17:20) of parenting and living...but in reality, I haven't been wandering. "I was [and continue to be] led by the Spirit, not knowing before hand the things which I should do" (1 Nephi 4:6). There is an element of faith in parenting and in living, even becoming a parent takes faith, especially in these days of not knowing before hand what to expect with all that is going to happen. Faith is in incredible power and we get to teach faith to our children and as we do so, we are lifted and strengthened. Elder Russel M. Nelson said, "Let [your children] feel your faith, even when sore trials come upon you. Let your faith be focused on our loving Heavenly Father and His Beloved Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. Teach that faith with deep conviction. Teach each precious boy or girl that he or she is a child of God, created in His image, with a sacred purpose and potential. Each is born with challenges to overcome and faith to be developed" (Face the Future with Faith).

Trials or afflictions come in all shapes and sizes. Nephi, a prophet, said this about afflictions, "...[I have] seen many afflictions in the course of my days, nevertheless,  [I have] been highly favored of the Lord in all my days; yea,  [I have] had a great knowledge of the goodness and the mysteries of God" (1 Nephi 1:1 italics added). Note the "nevertheless". He didn't focus on the afflictions. He had them, but, he saw them as blessings, not just as trials. He also said, "I, Nephi, will show unto you that the tender mercies of the Lord are over all those whom He hath chosen, because of their faith, to make them mighty even unto the power of deliverance" (1 Nephi 1:20). The tender mercies are over all of us when we seek the Lord. He is standing by to guide us and lead us through our "wilderness". We don't need to just wander about aimlessly wondering if we are doing any good or stay in pain or continue to do the same things and expect different results. When  there is a "mighty change in us, or in our hearts, that we have no more disposition to do evil, but to do good continually" (Mosiah 5:2) we will have a remarkable change take place. This change comes as we let our faith grow, and deepen in our Savior who is "mighty to save" (Isaiah 63:1, 2 Nephi 31:19, Alma 34:18).

Nephi's trials weren't trials of pain to him, but they became blessings. He recognized "the tender mercies of the Lord are over all those whom He hath chosen, because of their faith" ( 1 Nephi 1:20). The Lord's tender mercies are over all, not just parents. But all His children who choose to exercise faith in Him. Christ wants, in fact, He is waiting to bless us. He says, "Whatsoever thing ye shall ask the Father in my name, which is good, in faith believing that ye shall receive, behold, it shall be done unto you" (Moroni 7:26). And about our trials and afflictions He says, "...All things wherewith you have been afflicted shall work together for your good" (D&C 98:3). He's not going to let our challenges go to waste, but we might...we might if we turn away from God and murmur and complain and whine and become bitter.

But we don't need to become bitter. The joy is real. The joy is that there really is a Savior. We don't have to wander in the "wilderness" for nothing. "Have faith, have hope, live like His Son, help others on their way" (He Sent His Son, #34). The wilderness is but a testing ground for us to learn to listen to His voice, to recognize when He is calling to us (see D&C 88:66). He is calling us, "Come, follow me" (Luke 18:22) because He is the Light in the wilderness. He will lead us along. We need not fear or stay stuck where we are, or even keep murmuring, because those trials really are blessings in disguise. This I testify.